5 Super Tips to Help Couples Keep Sex Hot

Lots of couples complain about sex getting boring or routine. They must not realize what you’re about to learn: That if you’ve been together awhile, hot sex takes work, as well as play. Here are 5 super ways to keep things sizzling in the bedroom.

1. Learn to be seductive. You don’t have to be obvious about it. Just by using small, gentle touches of your partner’s thigh, arm, or tush, you can send a signal that you’re thinking about your partner as more than a friend. You can also give your partner more than just a peck on the cheek-really grab your partner and give them a breathtaking kiss that will leave them wanting more.

2. Set aside extra lovemaking time once a week, or once a month. If you pretty much always have a 15 or 20 minute block of time for sex, you are pretty much always going to do the same thing over and over again. By setting aside more time, you allow yourselves time to explore each other’s bodies, new positions, or new techniques.

3. Be an active student of sex. Yes, study sex as a topic. Study erotic books, mainstream books about sex, articles about sex to learn more about the body and the psychology of pleasure. The more you know, the better lover you become, and the less routine your sex life will be.

4. Own up. What is it about sex that has made it so dull lately? Maybe it’s not your partner, maybe it’s you! Maybe you’re the one who has been withdrawn or putting less effort into your sex life. When you put less energy into it, your partner feels that and pulls away, too. So put a little effort into having sex and see if your partner doesn’t respond in kind.

5. Spend more time together after sex. After play-the time you spend together after you’ve had orgasm-is a very rewarding reason to have sex. Couples feel closer physically and emotionally during this time. Don’t just fall asleep like you’ve taken a knockout pill after sex. Snuggle up and discover the further rewards of having sex. It might just make everything leading up to sex hotter the next time you make love.

Everything you do in life has the potential to become routine. It’s up to you to keep things exciting. Follow these tips and sex never needs to be dull!

Why Most Wives Don’t Want Sex: The Real Deal

So in my first “Why Most Wives Don’t Want Sex” Article, we explored some “surface” reasons as to why wives don’t enjoy sex in their marriage. But in this article, I want to get down to the core reasons that most wives don’t want to admit to.

Some women say, “I just don’t need sex. I don’t desire it.” That is a bold-faced lie. Women desire sex and romance just like men do. We are all sexual beings. Case in point: Married women are the main consumers for steamy romance novels, personal sex toys, and romantic movies wishing that was their life. So wives still do desire sex.

Other women would argue that marriage is NOT about sex: it’s about commitment and love and respecting each other… oh, and the kids. Who made that crap up? Marriage IS about sex… and commitment and love and respecting each other. They are all intertwined. If marriage wasn’t about sex, a person would not get upset if their spouse had casual sex with another person.

Sex is the highest form of intimacy and pleasure. It is the ultimate bond of two bodies, the intertwining and fusion of two souls. Who would not want that with their spouse… with the one that they chose to spend the rest of their life with? We should want that love connection regularly. Husbands and wives NEED that connection of intimacy and pleasure regularly. That’s why quickies are so awesome! You can’t always have a long romantic saga, but you can have a little fast naughty fun, connect with each and get some stress relief all at the same time.

So what is the real reason that most wives don’t want sex?

Wives become depressed, dissatisfied and unfulfilled because we view our husbands and children as the chains of bondage that are keeping us from our happiness, dreams, and freedom!

Man, that sounds so ugly! What woman wants to admit that? But I guarantee you that if a woman who has a loving family says she feels depressed because she is “losing herself” or has no time for herself because of her duties at home; then the bottom line is that she feels that her husband and children are keeping her from living. And that is the honest, albeit very painful truth. I know first hand: I couldn’t enjoy my marriage for years because I thought I killed my dreams with marriage and each child I had was another nail in the coffin. And I have 6 children, so in my mind that coffin was sealed pretty tight!

Let’s break it down:

1) With many wives, being a mom becomes a chore and sex with our husbands, a duty to perform. We convince ourselves that we have to live our lives for our families. Our husband wants sex so we have to give it to him. Our children need all of our attention so we exert all of our energy giving it to them. The house needs to be cleaned and the meals prepared, so we exhaust ourselves making sure these things get done. But at the end of the day, anyone who feels like their freedom is being taken away will begin to feel resentment and rebel. Most wives though feel like they can’t possibly deny the children. Thus, no sex with husband. What the wife doesn’t recognize though is that denying her husband is denying herself. She is self-destructing without even realizing it.

2) A lot of women get married thinking that their husbands are their knight-in-shining armor. But the more they see their husbands’ flaws, the more discouraged they get. They had all of these prerequisites in their mind that they wanted their husband to have, and when he falls short, their “dreams” come crashing down. So instead of being thankful for pleasant qualities that he does have, the wife complains about the areas she wants him to change in. And when he doesn’t change, she feels hurt and betrayed because she feels he owes her for all the sacrifices she’s made for him.

3) Most wives don’t realize that it wasn’t marriage that they originally wanted: it was companionship. She wanted the fairy-tale wedding and happily ever after, not building and growing together through thick and thin, for better and for worse. The world says wait until you finish school, build your financial empire and have all your personal accomplishments taken care of before you get married. Maybe the wife tried to convince herself that she could prove the world wrong because she was in love. But now as her life is not going the way she originally planned, she is having regrets. She thinks, “Maybe the world was right.” But the truth is that, people can be married young, grow as individuals while building their lives together, have families and enjoy life to the fullest.

Please understand that although many wives have these feelings, divorce and a broken home is not the change that they want. It’s not that they want their family to just die and not exist anymore either. What wives want is to feel like they can be personally fulfilled and enjoy life as a wife and mom. But it is only when wives accept the ugly truth of how they really feel about their life and family, that they can finally begin the ongoing journey to healing, growth and joyful satisfaction with their life.

Moral of the story: Wives, It is our own thoughts and feelings that are keeping us bound, not our husbands and children. When we realize that we are to simply live life for ourselves while embracing our decision to share our life with whomever we choose to share it with, everything that we do whether in word or deed can be done with a thankful heart, not grudgingly.

So, Wife, go grab your husband for a quickie. Enjoy yourself and get some sexual healing!

MoS2 Low Friction Coatings – Not Just For The Aviation Industry Anymore

MoS2 low friction coatings (also known as molybdenum disulfide, also spelled, disulphide) are regarded the most widely used form of solid film lubrication today. What makes them unique (with the other dichalcogenides) is the weak atomic interaction (Van der Waals) of the sulfide anions, while covalent bonds within molybdenum are strong.Thus, lubrication relies on slippage along the sulfur atoms. All the properties of the lamella structure are intrinsic. No external form of moisture is required. In fact, best performance from MoS2 low friction coatings is attained in the absence of water vapor, which are prone to surface adsorption. This makes them ideal under vacuum.There are a number of methods to apply MoS2 low friction coatings, including a simple rubbing or burnishing, air-spraying resin-bonded or inorganically bonded coatings, and more recently by sputtering through physical vapor deposition (PVD).Thickness will vary, depending on form of MoS2 low friction coatings, but typically ranges between 5 to 15 micrometer. Sputtering techniques can produce thin films of 0.2 micrometer. While plasma sprays will result in higher builds, beginning at 0.003 inch or more.Friction coefficient less than 0.05 is attainable, but will also vary with humidity and sliding conditions. Tests show friction decreases with increasing vacuum strength. Friction also lowers with higher load, faster surface speed, or both. In fact, MoS2 low friction coatings are superior to both graphite and tungsten disulfide (WS2). Friction with MoS2 low friction coatings is independent of particle size, though the larger particles can carry more load.Dry lubrication for MoS2 low friction coatings remains superior at higher temperatures, with oxidation rates remaining relatively low at temperatures up to 600 degrees Fahrenheit. And in dry, oxygen-free atmospheres, lubricating performance, even with oxidation products, is stable to 1300 degrees Fahrenheit.Higher air flow can affect oxidation kinetic rates in atmosphere. Molybdenum oxide products (MoO3) and sulfur dioxide. Since MoO3 alone offers dry lubrication, based on its relative softness, molybdenum disulfide coating are ideal in higher temperature environments. At higher temperatures, though, they are better suited under vacuum. In atmosphere, they are prone to water adsorption from air based on their hygroscopic properties.As with the other dry film lubricants, while differences may prove negligible, you will have to determine which is better for you: longer wear life or better performance, using MoS2 low friction coatings. Generally, friction will be slightly higher by coating both surfaces, rather than coating one surface only. But wear life will increase coating both surfaces.Friction can be good in so many areas of life. Without it we could not easily stop and start our motion, or change direction. But in moving machinery, friction causes considerable loss of energy, poorer performance, not to mention limiting wear life.As with many non-lubricated systems, the static coefficient of friction is higher than the dynamic coefficient of friction. The resultant motion is often referred to as ‘stick-slip’. Basically, the two surfaces stick together until the elastic energy within the system has accumulated to some threshold, where a sudden, forward slip takes place. Under magnification, it’s apparent the union of two surfaces is often limited to intimate contact only at the tips of a few of the asperities (small scale, surface irregularities). At these point areas, pressures relating to contact may be near the hardness of the softer material. Thus, plastic deformation occurs on some localized scale. This is known as cold welding. Where bonded junctions are formed between two materials.For lubrication to occur, these bonds, this adhesive component of friction, must be broken. And this is where products like MoS2 low friction coatings serve well.So, where are these products used today? Consider aerospace, automotive, marine and electronic, for starters. There, you’ll find MoS2 low friction coatings, again and again.