Why Most Wives Don’t Want Sex: The Real Deal

So in my first “Why Most Wives Don’t Want Sex” Article, we explored some “surface” reasons as to why wives don’t enjoy sex in their marriage. But in this article, I want to get down to the core reasons that most wives don’t want to admit to.

Some women say, “I just don’t need sex. I don’t desire it.” That is a bold-faced lie. Women desire sex and romance just like men do. We are all sexual beings. Case in point: Married women are the main consumers for steamy romance novels, personal sex toys, and romantic movies wishing that was their life. So wives still do desire sex.

Other women would argue that marriage is NOT about sex: it’s about commitment and love and respecting each other… oh, and the kids. Who made that crap up? Marriage IS about sex… and commitment and love and respecting each other. They are all intertwined. If marriage wasn’t about sex, a person would not get upset if their spouse had casual sex with another person.

Sex is the highest form of intimacy and pleasure. It is the ultimate bond of two bodies, the intertwining and fusion of two souls. Who would not want that with their spouse… with the one that they chose to spend the rest of their life with? We should want that love connection regularly. Husbands and wives NEED that connection of intimacy and pleasure regularly. That’s why quickies are so awesome! You can’t always have a long romantic saga, but you can have a little fast naughty fun, connect with each and get some stress relief all at the same time.

So what is the real reason that most wives don’t want sex?

Wives become depressed, dissatisfied and unfulfilled because we view our husbands and children as the chains of bondage that are keeping us from our happiness, dreams, and freedom!

Man, that sounds so ugly! What woman wants to admit that? But I guarantee you that if a woman who has a loving family says she feels depressed because she is “losing herself” or has no time for herself because of her duties at home; then the bottom line is that she feels that her husband and children are keeping her from living. And that is the honest, albeit very painful truth. I know first hand: I couldn’t enjoy my marriage for years because I thought I killed my dreams with marriage and each child I had was another nail in the coffin. And I have 6 children, so in my mind that coffin was sealed pretty tight!

Let’s break it down:

1) With many wives, being a mom becomes a chore and sex with our husbands, a duty to perform. We convince ourselves that we have to live our lives for our families. Our husband wants sex so we have to give it to him. Our children need all of our attention so we exert all of our energy giving it to them. The house needs to be cleaned and the meals prepared, so we exhaust ourselves making sure these things get done. But at the end of the day, anyone who feels like their freedom is being taken away will begin to feel resentment and rebel. Most wives though feel like they can’t possibly deny the children. Thus, no sex with husband. What the wife doesn’t recognize though is that denying her husband is denying herself. She is self-destructing without even realizing it.

2) A lot of women get married thinking that their husbands are their knight-in-shining armor. But the more they see their husbands’ flaws, the more discouraged they get. They had all of these prerequisites in their mind that they wanted their husband to have, and when he falls short, their “dreams” come crashing down. So instead of being thankful for pleasant qualities that he does have, the wife complains about the areas she wants him to change in. And when he doesn’t change, she feels hurt and betrayed because she feels he owes her for all the sacrifices she’s made for him.

3) Most wives don’t realize that it wasn’t marriage that they originally wanted: it was companionship. She wanted the fairy-tale wedding and happily ever after, not building and growing together through thick and thin, for better and for worse. The world says wait until you finish school, build your financial empire and have all your personal accomplishments taken care of before you get married. Maybe the wife tried to convince herself that she could prove the world wrong because she was in love. But now as her life is not going the way she originally planned, she is having regrets. She thinks, “Maybe the world was right.” But the truth is that, people can be married young, grow as individuals while building their lives together, have families and enjoy life to the fullest.

Please understand that although many wives have these feelings, divorce and a broken home is not the change that they want. It’s not that they want their family to just die and not exist anymore either. What wives want is to feel like they can be personally fulfilled and enjoy life as a wife and mom. But it is only when wives accept the ugly truth of how they really feel about their life and family, that they can finally begin the ongoing journey to healing, growth and joyful satisfaction with their life.

Moral of the story: Wives, It is our own thoughts and feelings that are keeping us bound, not our husbands and children. When we realize that we are to simply live life for ourselves while embracing our decision to share our life with whomever we choose to share it with, everything that we do whether in word or deed can be done with a thankful heart, not grudgingly.

So, Wife, go grab your husband for a quickie. Enjoy yourself and get some sexual healing!

MoS2 Low Friction Coatings – Not Just For The Aviation Industry Anymore

MoS2 low friction coatings (also known as molybdenum disulfide, also spelled, disulphide) are regarded the most widely used form of solid film lubrication today. What makes them unique (with the other dichalcogenides) is the weak atomic interaction (Van der Waals) of the sulfide anions, while covalent bonds within molybdenum are strong.Thus, lubrication relies on slippage along the sulfur atoms. All the properties of the lamella structure are intrinsic. No external form of moisture is required. In fact, best performance from MoS2 low friction coatings is attained in the absence of water vapor, which are prone to surface adsorption. This makes them ideal under vacuum.There are a number of methods to apply MoS2 low friction coatings, including a simple rubbing or burnishing, air-spraying resin-bonded or inorganically bonded coatings, and more recently by sputtering through physical vapor deposition (PVD).Thickness will vary, depending on form of MoS2 low friction coatings, but typically ranges between 5 to 15 micrometer. Sputtering techniques can produce thin films of 0.2 micrometer. While plasma sprays will result in higher builds, beginning at 0.003 inch or more.Friction coefficient less than 0.05 is attainable, but will also vary with humidity and sliding conditions. Tests show friction decreases with increasing vacuum strength. Friction also lowers with higher load, faster surface speed, or both. In fact, MoS2 low friction coatings are superior to both graphite and tungsten disulfide (WS2). Friction with MoS2 low friction coatings is independent of particle size, though the larger particles can carry more load.Dry lubrication for MoS2 low friction coatings remains superior at higher temperatures, with oxidation rates remaining relatively low at temperatures up to 600 degrees Fahrenheit. And in dry, oxygen-free atmospheres, lubricating performance, even with oxidation products, is stable to 1300 degrees Fahrenheit.Higher air flow can affect oxidation kinetic rates in atmosphere. Molybdenum oxide products (MoO3) and sulfur dioxide. Since MoO3 alone offers dry lubrication, based on its relative softness, molybdenum disulfide coating are ideal in higher temperature environments. At higher temperatures, though, they are better suited under vacuum. In atmosphere, they are prone to water adsorption from air based on their hygroscopic properties.As with the other dry film lubricants, while differences may prove negligible, you will have to determine which is better for you: longer wear life or better performance, using MoS2 low friction coatings. Generally, friction will be slightly higher by coating both surfaces, rather than coating one surface only. But wear life will increase coating both surfaces.Friction can be good in so many areas of life. Without it we could not easily stop and start our motion, or change direction. But in moving machinery, friction causes considerable loss of energy, poorer performance, not to mention limiting wear life.As with many non-lubricated systems, the static coefficient of friction is higher than the dynamic coefficient of friction. The resultant motion is often referred to as ‘stick-slip’. Basically, the two surfaces stick together until the elastic energy within the system has accumulated to some threshold, where a sudden, forward slip takes place. Under magnification, it’s apparent the union of two surfaces is often limited to intimate contact only at the tips of a few of the asperities (small scale, surface irregularities). At these point areas, pressures relating to contact may be near the hardness of the softer material. Thus, plastic deformation occurs on some localized scale. This is known as cold welding. Where bonded junctions are formed between two materials.For lubrication to occur, these bonds, this adhesive component of friction, must be broken. And this is where products like MoS2 low friction coatings serve well.So, where are these products used today? Consider aerospace, automotive, marine and electronic, for starters. There, you’ll find MoS2 low friction coatings, again and again.

Ontario’s Wine Industry – Harvesting the Benefits of SR&ED

How wonderful it is to proudly browse the wide selection of Ontario’s wines at your local LCBO. Knowing that your own winery is both a driving force in the Canadian economy and an innovator of the local wine industry can certainly be rewarding, both personally and professionally.From challenges to opportunitiesQuite often the goal of a grape grower to produce a consistent, high-quality brand of wine is met with many unexpected challenges. With the erratic situation of the Canadian economy following the recession, wine makers of Ontario struggle to produce at the risk of manufacturing downsizing. In addition to economic factors, the wine industry of Ontario is faced with a higher stringency under Vintners Quality Alliance (VQA) regulations, and the push from Wine Council of Ontario (WCO) to raise industry standards by participating in programs like Sustainable Winemaking Ontario.For the individual winery of Ontario, keeping up with competition means continuously utilizing new technologies and finding innovative ways to provide a premium product, despite such challenges. Simply put, this boils down to having the necessary financial opportunities become available to maintain a healthy competition. Are these opportunities available to the wine industry of Ontario? Yes – SR&ED is the answer!The SR&ED programThe SR&ED program (Scientific Research & Experimental Development) aims to reimburse companies for their experimental development expenses. For over 20 years and with about $4 billion a year in funding, it remains the largest single source of federal funding for R&D in Canada. The goal is to make creativity and innovation affordable in the Canadian business environment and foster future development.The program is highly relevant to businesses who are naturally involved in shop-floor
experimentation. R&D projects that qualify under the program include (1) work undertaken for the purpose of achieving technological advancement and/or (2) creating new, or improving existing materials, devices, products or processes. The actual refund amount depends on proper identification and qualification of eligible expenditures.Wineries in Ontario serve as ideal candidates for such funding. Typical SR&ED eligible activities that apply to the wine industry include:Developing new wines
Altering soil chemistry
Handling and harvesting technology
Improved bottling techniques
Altering practice as result of the weather
Many more…
Wineries and growers may be regularly overcoming such obstacles in daily operation. Your innovative solutions to these problems may very well qualify you for some SR&ED funding. The program supports any attempts to improve your business operations, even if they do not prove successful.Which costs qualify?Working on new ideas takes time, wastes material and requires equipment modification. The SR&ED program allows retrieving these expenses:68% of wages and salaries of personnel directly involved in R&D
41% of sub-contractor expenses
22% of capital expenditures
The refund has no strings attached – as a winery owner you are free to spend it anyway you like – buy new equipment, attempt new projects, or give everyone a big bonus – the decision is yours!How we can help?Submitting a SR&ED claim is a fairly complex and time consuming process. It involves properly identifying eligible activities within your business, associating the appropriate costs to these projects and completing a highly technical report to support the claim.Using the extensive experience of a professional consultancy like ourselves, business owners have the opportunity to review their potential for qualification, and complete the application process in a few hours, and with no up-front costs. We get paid when you do!Discovering that your business is eligible for SR&ED funding makes a world of difference. The goal is to help your winery take potential technical risks that will eventually lead to significant improvements in your industry.